Fifteen years ago today I was walking down the isle, a blushing bride, no idea what I was getting into but so in love! After the first year I suspected I’d married a jerk. After the second year I realized the jerk was me. Marriage is one of God’s amazing tools of pruning and refining our character. In the years to follow we’ve been learning to serve one another, forgive, be patient, recognize our weaknesses, and submit to one another. Some days and weeks are awesome successes of love and sacrifice. But really we’re still learning.
I pray my children enter marriage prepared to be the spouse God intends them to be and ready to accept their spouse for who they are. I don’t think marriage will be easy or perfect for them, but I do hope it will be good. A successful marriage is not an accident. No matter the age of our kids it’s not too early to start praying for their future spouses or shaping their expectations.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:12-14
Let’s pray that our children will grow in love, that they will be prepared to be the spouse God created them to be, and for their future husband or wife.
Father, thank you for the example of love you have given us, sacrificial, free, unending. We pray that our children will grow in love, ready to be compassionate and forgiving in their future marriages. In the meantime, as they wait, will you give them pure hearts, committed to to living morally and with honor. We’re trusting you to prepare their future spouse as well. Will you protect, guide, and love the children our children will one day marry. Teach our children to trust you as the get older and not rush into relationships without your council and wisdom. It’s our desire as mamas to see our children be prepared and one day thrive in a healthy marriage. We know that’s your desire as well. Thank you God. Amen.